In this week’s episode of Divorced Like a Boss, our discussion will revolve around the often undermined and easily overlooked Gift of Forgiveness. The points that I will be sharing will help you to take the very important first few steps toward having a happier life.
Together, we will explore the idea of removing our anger and feelings of resentment toward what happened in our past and thereby securing the gift of forgiveness for ourselves and others.
You may see yourself as a “wreck” right now, but one day, even if that day is not today, you are going to look back and feel grateful and thankful that all of this happened.
“Basically what forgiveness means is that you stop feeling anger or resentment towards someone for an offense. So if you forgive someone, it means you stop feeling anger or resentment towards someone else for an offense.”
“So when should you forgive somebody? Well, anytime you need or want to stop feeling anger or resentful, that's when you should forgive. Notice that the other person is not really mentioned except for that there is somebody. Somebody committed an offense. But other than that, the other person doesn't really have anything to do with the actual forgiveness. It's you, the person who has experienced the offense that's able to let go of or stop feeling anger and resentment.”
“So what does the other person have to do? The person who committed the offense? What do they have to do? And the answer is nothing. They get to be who they are and they get a do and say whatever they want because they are human with freewill. And that has nothing to do with forgiveness.”
“Jen Sincero said we tend to hold onto resentment because we feel like the nitwit who wronged us doesn't deserve forgiveness. Meanwhile, the only person being punished by resentment is you. Forgiveness is about you deserving peace, not necessarily about others deserving your forgiveness.”
“That's not really true forgiveness if you're still holding on to any of the resentment or the anger. So unless, unless you've released those poisonous emotions, you still haven't forgiven. So it can be helpful to act in a forgiving way towards the other person. And that certainly can never hurt.”
When I went through my own divorce, I discovered that the "help" that was out there was either very heavily based on dragging up the past OR slapping a positive affirmation on top of every shitty thought.
Uh, no thank you. Hard pass.
I knew there had to be a better way:
A way for people like me - driven, high-achieving women who were ready to conquer this "divorce thing" once and for all - to stop focusing on the past and start building a genuinely fun, incredible life NOW. A way for us to heal and move on without freaking CRYING every single day.
Heck, throw in some laughs, and you've got me totally sold!
That's when I discovered a method that did ALL of that.
And the rest was magic. (like, Hermione magic, not crappy Ron magic)
Today, everything I do is with the sole purpose of helping other women use my coaching method and tools to create a life and future they LOVE.
If you're ready to capture some of this magic for yourself, hit me up!
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