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Permission to Wallow (with limits)

Dec 02, 2018

If you're in pain, the last thing you want to hear is someone to tell you to "put on a happy face" or "just move on, already!"

Those people get a mental punch in the throat.

Not only is that advice infuriating, but bottling up the negative emotions and spraying them with a heavy dose of Febreez...

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Being the "Bad Guy" is Part of Life

Nov 29, 2018

This is a silly little meme, but it actually got me thinking... 

Lately I've been giving a lot of thought to my people-pleasing tendencies, and my commitment to ditching that in exchange for becoming my most authentic self. Which is scary as poop, but also pretty fun. 

This meme pointed...

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Happy Anniversary: A Look at All The Feels on Your Old Anniversary Date

Nov 27, 2018

HAPPY FOURTEENTH ANNIVERSARY!!!

... said no one.

Today is the big day. Or, what would have been the big day. The big 1-4. Fourteen years of wedded bliss. Or something like that. 

Instead, today is just a normal Tuesday. 

Let that sink in.

My former wedding anniversary date is now just a...

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Surviving the First Holiday Season After Divorce

Nov 20, 2018

The holidays can be a tricky time for people, whether married, divorced, single, or some new variation that I'm not cool enough to know about.

It seems like no matter what your marital status, the holidays have a way of kicking people in the emotional nuts.

Somehow the addition of holiday...

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The Real Me - Fresh Outta Fucks to Give

Nov 19, 2018
I took a little break from Facebook recently.
 
Nothing too terribly long. Nothing too terribly noticeable, absence-wise.
 
But I'm thinking that the results of this break will be quite noticeable over time.
 
I spent half the night awake last night - excited and...
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When People Don't Do What They're SUPPOSED To Do

Nov 14, 2018

You know what's frustrating? MADDENING, even?

When people don't do what they're supposed to do.

Seriously, people! Is it THAT hard to just act like an adult / be a good person / work together / do things right!?

Have you ever felt this way or had these types of thoughts? If you haven't, please...

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Owning Your Story

Nov 07, 2018

Ooo, buckle up ladies, because I have a thought-provoking topic for you TO-DAY!

Who does your story belong to? Who has say over what you share and don't share? How do you decide?

This topic came up in a recent session with a client, and in coaching her thoughts on it, I was able to adopt...

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Four Layers of Conversation

Oct 22, 2018

In every conversation, there are four distinct layers:

  1. What was said. (by the Speaker)
  2. What was intended. (by the Speaker)
  3. What was heard. (by the Listener)
  4. What was interpreted. (by the Listener)

Being aware of all four layers is an awesome tool for communication with your ex, your children,...

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My Child Misses His Daddy - Self Coaching for the Coach

Oct 10, 2018

Last night I got to self-coach the fool outta myself. My 7yo son D came out from his bedroom crying, saying he doesn't like changing houses (my ex and I have 50/50 and do one-week-on, one-week-off, and yesterday was the transition day). I sat with him, talked a little, listened a lot,...

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Forgive Doesn't Mean You Have to Forget

Oct 09, 2018
 
I tell my clients this all the time. Forgiveness is for YOU, not for the other person who is being forgiven. Forgiveness allows you to find peace and acceptance for what is, and it helps YOU to move on. It doesn't mean that you agree with what the other person has said or done. It just...
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