My Ex Hurt My Feelings

Dec 06, 2018

Does your Ex has a special knack for hurting your feelings?

Things he says. Things he does. All of it.

It all hurts.

Hurting Feelings is like his super power. (cape and tights sold separately)

Giiiiirrrrrrrrl, STOP.

Do you really want to give your Ex credit for a freaking SUPER POWER!? ...

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Fact vs. Story

Dec 05, 2018

For every situation in your life, there are FACTS and there are STORIES. Being able to distinguish between the two is a total game-changer.

Facts are things that definitely ARE or have been. Everyone would agree. It's virtually indisputable. There are no adjectives associated. They are the...

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But if you DID know...

Dec 05, 2018

"I don't know."

"I'm confused."

"I'm not sure what to do."

"Should I do this, or that?"

So many of us live in a near-perpetual state of confusion. Over anything and everything!

Why do you think that is?

(Did I just trick you into saying "I don't know." - haha)

It's because confusion is easy. Our...

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Change It or Quit Complaining

Dec 04, 2018

Years ago, my sweet mom was going on and on about how she needed to lose weight, how "fat" she'd gotten, how her clothes weren't fitting. 

Blah, blah, blah.

I had heard this rant before. Many, MANY times.

Never mind that my mom is cute and tiny and has never been fat a day in her life. SHE...

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You Aren't Your Thoughts

Dec 04, 2018

Have you ever thought something and then immediately thought, "Oh my gosh, I'm a HORRIBLE person! WHO thinks stuff like that!?!?"

I'm not the only one, am I?

::chirp chirp::


Ok. good. (phew!)

Anyhoo, I have good news for you!!! 

You aren't your thoughts.


When you think...

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Be An Elsa and Let It Go

Dec 03, 2018

I have a friend that always says, "That's a hill I'm just not willing to die on." Which basically means that particular situation is not worth the extra trouble or the effort. 

It's not worth it.

Even if she feels like her side is right. Even if it seems like the other person...

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Clean-Up After the (Shit)Storm

Dec 03, 2018

You know those companies that come in after a big storm or disaster and do a full clean-up? Like, if your house has a fire or a flood and they come in and clean up all the soot or suck up all the water.

They send in their team of guys and gals, and you go stay in a hotel. You pay the company a...

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Who Are You REALLY Hurting?

Dec 02, 2018

So much about divorce can be frustrating, maddening, upsetting.

You can stew and stew on one tiny interaction or one memory for hours (or days!). 

You know what I'm talking about. The replaying of the conversation, scheming what you "should have said." Thinking of all the ways that the...

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Permission to Wallow (with limits)

Dec 02, 2018

If you're in pain, the last thing you want to hear is someone to tell you to "put on a happy face" or "just move on, already!"

Those people get a mental punch in the throat.

Not only is that advice infuriating, but bottling up the negative emotions and spraying them with a heavy dose of Febreez...

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Being the "Bad Guy" is Part of Life

Nov 29, 2018

This is a silly little meme, but it actually got me thinking... 

Lately I've been giving a lot of thought to my people-pleasing tendencies, and my commitment to ditching that in exchange for becoming my most authentic self. Which is scary as poop, but also pretty fun. 

This meme pointed...

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