Ever wonder why you react a certain way in certain situations? And why changing those reactions is so hard?
In today's episode, divorce coach, Jennifer Connor talks about why we do what we do, why change is so hard, and why sometimes it seems like we're self sabotaging even when we WANT that great new life!
Jenn takes a quick dive into the primitive areas of your brain and how your brain tries to protect you by staying in the safe discomfort of what is known, then venture out into the scary unknown.
At the end of the episode, Jenn will provide you with some homework to start making big changes in those behavior patterns we just “can’t help” but continue to improve your everyday life.
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Today's topic is all about why we do what we do; why change is so dang hard, and why sometimes it seems like we're going against our own will like we want to change something but we just can't seem to make ourselves do it.
Every time you do something your brain is actually learning how to do it in the most efficient way possible and your brains naturally creating tiny brain hacks that help you to. Get through basic everyday tasks without having to go through every single thought process.
You are like oddly enough you are avoiding pain because change is uncomfortable. Change is super scary to our brain and the new and the unknown is so scary that you're at your brain would rather stay where it is with what it's used to and the way that things have gotten and the patterns that it's created. It's like it's more comfortable to stay in the known discomfort than it is for your brain to venture out and try something new.
That is so uncomfortable but your brain has gotten to where it's like a science like your brain's just gotten so efficient at it and so used to it like this is what we do when we're alone. This is what we do and we have a chance to sit and think and your brains used to it.
It's easier for you to stay on default. And you just continue to replay the past. You beat yourself up you fight with your ex whatever it is that you're doing that feels like something you'd like to change. But for some reason I just can't. You're doing it because it's familiar.
When I went through my own divorce, I discovered that the "help" that was out there was either very heavily based on dragging up the past OR slapping a positive affirmation on top of every shitty thought.
Uh, no thank you. Hard pass.
I knew there had to be a better way:
A way for people like me - driven, high-achieving women who were ready to conquer this "divorce thing" once and for all - to stop focusing on the past and start building a genuinely fun, incredible life NOW. A way for us to heal and move on without freaking CRYING every single day.
Heck, throw in some laughs, and you've got me totally sold!
That's when I discovered a method that did ALL of that.
And the rest was magic. (like, Hermione magic, not crappy Ron magic)
Today, everything I do is with the sole purpose of helping other women use my coaching method and tools to create a life and future they LOVE.
If you're ready to capture some of this magic for yourself, hit me up!
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What I want you to do is observe your primitive brain at work and all the areas of your life. Just notice it. Just notice what your primary brain is doing, how it's seeking pay seeking pleasure avoiding pain and work and working to be efficient in all areas of your life. Then I want you to pick something that you want to change and identify why your primitive brain has been preventing you to change so far.
So even if it's something painful like we mentioned before, I want you to dig in and ask yourself what am I getting that's positive from this? If you were to change what actions would you need to take? And how would you need to feel to take those actions?
Whether it's a nosy neighbor or your delightful Ex-mother-in-law, people are gonna ask...
And now YOU will have the perfect answer!