This week on Life Like A Boss, I want to talk to you all about the devil’s advocate, but in a much more positive light, your alter ego advocate! It is more like that advocate that helps you see the brighter side of a situation or circumstance.
One way to start applying this is to create a list of “what if…” scenarios. This provides you with an entire list of other possibilities, instead of being totally negative and miserable about a certain situation.
“I've named this tentatively, your alter egos advocate. So it's like your alter ego, the other side of you. The you, that's not you, but is you at the same time. If we're gonna get trippy, kind of like when you're observing yourself and you're observing your thoughts. It's the observer.”
“You know, a lot of stuff that you can come up with that maybe, if you could just find like a glimmer of possibility in even just one of those, it could help to fuse some of your pain. And that's what this is all about.”
“If you're struggling with something, and you're completely in pain. It's like all the gloom and the doom. You know how it is when you get to that space to argue against the gloom and doom. And the pain is to argue for a brighter side or a positive side or kind of like giving the benefit of the doubt.”
“It's not about figuring out what the real answer is or why, but when you're in a situation where you're assuming the worst, this is a way to kind of show your permanent brain like chill out.”
“It could end up being that it was the worst case scenario. And that is what happened. But 99% of the time. It's not exactly what you jumped to that is the actual conclusion. So why put yourself through all that extra emotional turmoil when you can come up with some other alternatives, play alternate ego, advocate with yourself and give your brain a little bit of relief and still it just calm down.”
This group is for you if you've earned ALL the gold stars, been the "good girl" and done all the right things throughout your life, only to be left feeling "meh" and a little empty. If you've ever thought, "There's gotta be more to life than this.," you're my people! There IS more to life! And YOU have the power to create it for yourself. This group will show you how.