“This is a story that's so near and dear to my heart because it literally shaped who I am. Like getting divorced changed my entire life in a really beautiful, never expected way …”
This week on Divorced Like a Boss, I had the opportunity to sit down and interview Lauren Eliz Love, creator of Badass Business Babes. Today, she is a successful entrepreneur devoted to teaching spiritual and business driven women to transform their business and themselves.
But in the past she has been exactly where most of us have been; seeking validation through her relationship with her ex-husband, regardless of the red flags that were so prevalent throughout the relationship. The thing is, like so many other women, leaving didn’t seem like a viable option.
Until a private investigator, an unbiased stranger, basically told her it was time to get out and move on. He made her see things clearly. So she finally took action, poured into working on herself and started to change the trajectory of her life.
“ … all of us who have been divorced, you don't have to necessarily, that's not necessarily your full identity, but it is part of your story.”
“So I think sometimes it's hard for women to look through the now of their situation. Like I did not feel that way when I was getting divorced, when I was in the middle of it. I was angry and exhausted and frustrated and feeling like I was like this was the end. I literally felt like I was dying.”
“ … I think many women go into marriages and fall in love with men because they fill holes. You know, they fill a gap in what they can't fill themselves.”
“This man ended up sweeping me off my feet and we fell in love and we got married and about a year into our marriage. Looking back, here's the funny thing. We all see the flags.”
“ … I asked myself, where are you going to go? And I I didn't have an answer. I couldn't go back to my parents because I was afraid I would get a million questions and I would get in trouble. I would get yelled at. I somehow thought this would be my fault. And our wedding was like three months away at the time, and I just sat there with like, with no clue where I would go to leave this life that I had created. And so I just stayed.”
“ … I look back on all of this and I realize that this was not a journey of divorce. This was a journey of finding myself. That's what this was. Because on paper, yeah, I was marrying the wrong person for me and going through a really unhealthy, sick time in my life in a manipulative relationship. But the deeper layer that was like I didn't know who I was. And I was seeking validation in my relationship with him, trying to make me feel like I was worthy because I didn't feel worthy myself.”
“I look back on that and I'm like, this man's response made me see how bad this was because this was an unbiased stranger who was hearing my story and telling me to get out.”
When I went through my own divorce, I discovered that the "help" that was out there was either very heavily based on dragging up the past OR slapping a positive affirmation on top of every shitty thought.
Uh, no thank you. Hard pass.
I knew there had to be a better way:
A way for people like me - driven, high-achieving women who were ready to conquer this "divorce thing" once and for all - to stop focusing on the past and start building a genuinely fun, incredible life NOW. A way for us to heal and move on without freaking CRYING every single day.
Heck, throw in some laughs, and you've got me totally sold!
That's when I discovered a method that did ALL of that.
And the rest was magic. (like, Hermione magic, not crappy Ron magic)
Today, everything I do is with the sole purpose of helping other women use my coaching method and tools to create a life and future they LOVE.
If you're ready to capture some of this magic for yourself, hit me up!
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