In this episode, we will discusses whether or not other people’s opinions really do matter. Are the words of others causing us to feel poorly? Or is it the power we give those words? Are they words themselves really just a neutral circumstance in the grand scheme of things?
I will give you some examples of how you can take the same words, and create completely different emotions around them, just by changing your thoughts about the words. The hope is, you find the power you have to decide how these words are going to affect you. You get to decide.
But I want to ask you when other people talk about their opinion of your divorce or any aspect of [your divorce] how do you react. Like what do you do. Does it matter to you what is said, or does it matter who said it, or how you heard it? Could [they say] the exact same thing but just depending on who said it or how you heard it could maybe change how you feel about it?
Here's the thing. You can hear someone's opinion and you can feel angry. You could feel hurt you could feel upset. And those are probably the things that are coming to mind quickly but you can also hear someone else's opinion, and be humored to buy it or totally unfazed.
[Does] any part of you agree with this opinion? Do you agree in any way, about what this person said? Because if you agree in any way, with any portion of what the person said, you're probably going to let that word, those words, affect you deeper.
… they say that you know other peoples thought other people's opinions of you are their business … so what other people think about you, none of your business.
But seriously I'm telling you it doesn't matter how many people are saying it or what they're saying. You get to decide what meaning it has. So the next time somebody says something to you about you or something to someone else that's about you. I want you to just hear the words. You can hear them. But then you get to take charge of the meaning of those words you get to decide what the impact of those words has on you.
When I went through my own divorce, I discovered that the "help" that was out there was either very heavily based on dragging up the past OR slapping a positive affirmation on top of every shitty thought.
Uh, no thank you. Hard pass.
I knew there had to be a better way:
A way for people like me - driven, high-achieving women who were ready to conquer this "divorce thing" once and for all - to stop focusing on the past and start building a genuinely fun, incredible life NOW. A way for us to heal and move on without freaking CRYING every single day.
Heck, throw in some laughs, and you've got me totally sold!
That's when I discovered a method that did ALL of that.
And the rest was magic. (like, Hermione magic, not crappy Ron magic)
Today, everything I do is with the sole purpose of helping other women use my coaching method and tools to create a life and future they LOVE.
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